The Discreet Charm of the Big Bad Wolf by Alexander McCall Smith
Author:Alexander McCall Smith [McCall Smith, Alexander]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group
Published: 2023-08-29T00:00:00+00:00
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Later, when discussing his actions in this period with his therapist, Ulf raised the possibility that he was, for some inexplicable reason, doing the precise opposite of what he really wanted to do. For Dr. Svensson, this was no surprise.
âBut that is exactly what we do,â Dr. Svensson said. âWe do the opposite of what is in our best interestsâtime and time again.â He fixed Ulf with one of his melancholic stares. âI canât tell you the number of people Iâve had sitting where you are sitting now and telling me about how theyâve done things they didnât want to do. Thatâs what we do. We do these things and then ask ourselves how we could possibly have done them. Not me, they say. It really wasnât me. And theyâre right, as often as notâso much human action comes from a self that is other to what we think of as our normal self.â
âBut why do we do it?â asked Ulf. âWhy did I sell my Saabâmy beautiful silver Saab that I got from my uncle? Why would I have done that? I didnât really believe that Martin needed the operation, after all, and yet I caved.â
âBecause we all cave,â said Dr. Svensson. âWe cave because we find it hard to cope with the emotional demands made upon us. Itâs nothing unusual. And in your case, the emotional demand came from Juniâ¦â He hesitated, as if uncertain whether to vouchsafe some psychological truth that might be just too much for his patient to bear. âBecause Juni, you see, is your mother.â
âNo, she isnât,â said Ulf, almost automatically. âShe was my girlfriend. Mothers and girlfriends are not the same thing.â
âBut they are,â insisted Dr. Svensson. âAt least in one sense. Thereâs a large body of research that showsâ¦â
Ulf closed his eyes briefly. He had his reservations about any observation that began with Thereâs a large body of research that shows, even if it was made by one whom he admired as much as Dr. Svensson.
ââ¦that men,â continued the therapist, âmarry people who look like their mothers and women marry men who look like their fathers.â
Ulf opened his eyes again. âReally?â
âYes. You can read about it if you wish in the popular psychology magazines. People love that sort of thing because itâs information that tends to accord with what they themselves have noticed in their own lives. We all know people who have married along those lines. I had a friend who married a woman who was the image of his mother. That ended in divorce, and do you know what he did? He went out and found somebody who once again looked exactly like his late mother, and married her.â
Ulf thought about this, and realised that he too could think of a friend whoâd done exactly that.
âFreud, of course,â Dr. Svensson continued, âwould explain that in terms of the Oedipus complex. And you may have heard of the female equivalentâthe Electra complex. But even if you donât think of it in Freudian terms, itâs still there as an observable phenomenon.
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